Year of the tiger-lilly

Archive for January, 2010

I know it’s been a while since I’ve last posted, but please do keep checking in.  Planned posts:

1. Kamasutra Fair
2. Career & Academics (enrolling online for distance learning)
3. Home & Garden (I might be moving sooner than I thought)

Progress: (0/1) :

• Read 12 books

Progress (0/1) :

• Tell mom I’m agnostic

Progress (0/1) :

• Visit 3 cities/ towns (which I’ve never been to of course)

Progress (o/4):

• Keep daily journal/ Blog daily
• Find out what registered partnership entails (pros/cons)
• Get driver’s license
• Learn how to rollerblade

Progress (0/3) :

• Kiss a girl
• Have sex outdoors
• Celebrate 2 year anniversary

Progress (0/1) :

• Babysit nephew

What constitutes cheating? I’m not talking about: kissing, heavy petting or having sex.

What behaviour, which is not inherently cheating– such as above mentioned activities, is not considered ‘okay’ when you have a boyfriend or girlfriend?

I ask myself this, because I sometimes find myself in situations in which I get offered opportunities to behave in ways which are definitely of the cheating category. However, one does not go from “okay activities” to “cheating activities” in a single step; at least anyone with a partner would hope not. There’s always a game played in which the players react off of the other before they get to a point where one might even think of suggesting sexual activities. In plain English: it takes two to tango. So, if I were to use the “baseball” analogy in which inning should you decide to sit out the game? Do you:

1. Not play the game at all = stay home, never look a man in the eyes and cover you body from head to toe when/if you leave the house
2. Play innings 1-3 = Any non-verbal behavior programmed to let another person know you like them: smiling, mirroring, eye-contact, hair flipping/twirling
3. Play innings 4-6 = Any conscious behavior: light (unnecessary) touching, purposefully looking that person up, flirtatious jokes, winking
4. Play innings 7-9 = Any behaviour that constitutes courting: prolonged touching, chatting/ calling, rendezvous outside of usual contact, dancing

Mind you in any inning can the opportunity present itself for you to score a home-run or a base hit, but the chances of that happening dramatically increases as you play inning after inning.  So tell me how long can your partner play the game before he/she strikes out with you and when do you decide to sit-out the game?

My experiences and answer in Cheating: The Game Part II

*sigh*

One sentence is enough to constitute a diary entry, right? Guess not.

 I’m not really moving along on my to do-list. I’m having a little spat with my sister V. about religion, but that’s mostly because she’s a “holier than thou”; hypocrital; judgemental bitch girl. –How many sentences have I written now?

I’m not really moving along on my to-do list. I’ll just finish up what I’ve started next week (clean room item). I’m going to go to bed on time today. So… see you around tomorrow.

Okay, so bf went off to save the day (substitute at his old badminton club), and I decided I would stay home; clean the house and have some “me time”. Great frackin’ plan that turned out to be. My room is now clean — sorta, but that phone call to go out and party with collegues? Well, let’s just say I’m starting to lose faith.

The thing is, I’ve been with bf for so long now, I kinda feel lonely when he’s not around. Yes, when he is here we sit in separate rooms blogging or gaming away behind our computers; but there was always time for snuggle- (and or annoy-) breaks in between. I use to relish the weekends, time where I can sit at home and do nothing. However, now that I’ve got a whole blog set up dedicated to doing ‘stuff’, sitting home alone behind the PC is just no longer a viable option for me. I know, I know; bf is reading this and thinking “you could’ve come along with me”, but that’s just not an option either. Being in his hometown doing stuff with his friends just doesn’t make it my weekend. I want to go out with my friends, in my hometown.

Well, I can’t say I didn’t have the chance to be doing something “exciting” this weekend. I mean I got propositioned by someone I met on Tagged. [sarcasm] It’s just a darn shame I don’t have “cheat on my boyfriend” on my to do-list, cause then I just might have done it. [/sarcasm]. I even forwent the chance to sleep-over at T.S.’s because I thougth I would be going out with some collegues.

I’m going to stop whining. Not every weekend has to be filled to the brink with activity. There should be a balance between rest and activity. So, I look foward to the next one: I’ll be sleeping over at my sis and at JD’s; now that’s going to be fun!